Honesty IS the best Policy

So today my "Activity" was cleaning and doing laundry.  Hey I'm sure my heart rate got up there.  I also baked some healthier snacks.  I made these apple bars with walnuts.  All natural ingredients no processed anything Even the butter was real butter! LOL.  They turned out pretty good.
So I've been thinking. I have an awesome set of friends and family.  The support I get from all of them is amazing.  I love you all.  Now with that being said.... back to the thinking part.  So I was thinking how when you love someone that person is the hardest person to be brutally honest with.  Why do we feel that we have to tell little white lies so you won't hurt your friend or family member?  We have all done it.  You see your friend or family member and you haven't seen them in a while and when you do you notice they have gained a whole person. (okay perhaps not a whole person but you get my drift) Or you notice that they have lost so much weight that they look like they need medical help.  But it's not just with weight.  What if they got some horrible plastic surgery or a botox injection went south.  Or a lip injection made them look like they traded lips with a horse.  Because we love them and don't want to hurt their feelings you say OMG you look great.  When you know they don't.  If they were not your friend or family you would turn to your friend and say to her OMG she gained a whole person, or her lips looks bad.
Why is it so much easier to say that about someone else?  Sure if you say to your friend Honey what happed? She (or he) may quite possibly burst into tears (or hit you) but if your friend or family member can't say to you lay off the doughnuts who can? If we can tell each other that those shoes are BUTT UGLY, or that dress is too tight or that lipstick is not you.  Why oh why can't we say what that person needs to hear.
We applaud each other when there is a weight loss or a really good boob job.  You hear You look great.  But no intervention when something has gone array.

So what am I saying?  Well I guess it's that if you love me and you tell me I'm gaining weight or I should not have gotten that lip injection or  that was a bad hair cut choice I won't stop loving you or being your friend.  Sure I may burst into tears and then look like I want to kill you but I know you did it out of love and I will love you more for that.  And when I burst into tears I'm going to need you to throw your arm around me and tell me it's okay and what can we do to fix it. :)  Sometimes it takes that little nudge to get a person moving.  If you're friends you will stay friends and your friendship will be that much stronger and if your family Hey your family and you have to love each other.  So next time your friend or sister, or brother looks a little different and its not a good look.  Take their hand, look them in the eye and say "Honey you know I love you but I think it's time to .......... and either step back real quick to avoid the flying hand or wrap your arm around them and tell them you'll be on the treadmill next to them at the gym!  xoxoxo

Tomorrow is workout day!!!  YAY!!

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